Sometimes self-harm seems to be an endless cycle that I can't get out of. Some days are harder than others. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever be able to live a life completely free of self-harm. I look at my scars and try to count them but I start to lose count after 50... … Continue reading Some days are harder than others..
I don't know about y'all, but I am SO TIRED of the 24/7, 365 news cycle of endless negativity. I know that I should not be looking through my twitter feed as often as I am, but it's so difficult to pull myself away. I feel as though if I put my phone down for … Continue reading Tired & disheartened
Just a reminder to myself and anyone that needs it... recovery is not linear. There will be good days, bad days, and okay days. Sometimes it's not "one day at a time" but more like one hour at a time. As a friend just reminded me, so far, you've survived 100% of your worst days.
Self-harm is an addictive behavior with similarities to other addictions therefore it is completely normal to experience urges and relapses during your recovery. In fact, it would be strange if you didn't experience any urges since many of us come to rely on self-harm during times of emotional pain. Since it's not realistic to live a … Continue reading When you’ve relapsed with self-harm
Knowledge is a very powerful thing and having the knowledge about what self-harm is and isn't will be important in your road to recovery. If you are able to understand what leads you to self-harm then you will be in a much better position to work through the urges when you experience them. The problem … Continue reading Myths About Self-Harm
There's an extensive list of myths and misconceptions about self-harm and I'm sure you've heard at least a few of them. The problem with these myths are that they perpetuate the stigma of self-harm and force those who self-harm into a painful silence. I know because I have experienced it. I have been told that … Continue reading Facts About Self-Harm
Self-harm is undoubtedly prevalent in our society and especially among young people. It's difficult to know just how many people engage in self-harm but some studies have found that as many as 20% of high school students and 40% of college students have self-harmed (Gratz & Chapman 2009). I began self-harming in high school and … Continue reading 15 Things You Can Do Instead of Self-Harm That Actually Work (I’ve tried them all)
I have often wondered what makes self-harm so shameful and why people are so opposed to talking about it. After a few years of intensive therapy with a psychodynamic therapist, I have come to realize that self-harm is merely a coping mechanism to help one deal with emotions they would rather not face. This realization … Continue reading What’s so shameful about self-harm?
When I was in high school in the mid-2000s, the internet was not nearly as advanced as it is now and I wrote about my depression in my "online journal" (also known as livejournal). It was a safe space for me to voice my thoughts and feelings and receive supportive comments from friends as well as … Continue reading Dismantling the stigma